-Jillian, Rashida, and Linda
See what's happening in the school counseling world at Lafayette Elementary School in NW DC! We call the counselor's office area "the Oasis" because it's a calm and rejuvenating place all are welcome to seek in the midst of our busy and sometimes chaotic lives.
Friday, August 30, 2013
Pathways to Peace at Lafayette 2013-2014
-Jillian, Rashida, and Linda
A Summer of Sibling Rivalry
Hello and welcome back to another great year at Lafayette! I hope you all had a wonderful summer and enjoyed having more time with your kids. As for me, I spent a good part of the vacation dealing with the dreaded sibling rivalry, which has not appeared in our house before. My two boys are spread out in age, 7 and 2, and I thought by doing that I had avoided having major problems between them as they grow up. Boy was I wrong! This summer, the two year old was finally able to assert himself, grab toys, shout "it's mine!" and just generally be an adorable/terrible two-year-old. My 7-year old could not handle it, and a lot of screaming/yelling/fighting and general chaos ensued. Thus I spent the summer refereeing between the two. I had to actually dust off my counselor's hat and develop behavior plans for them both, complete with positive and negative reinforcers as well as punishments. Yes, it was that bad. I'm happy to say that things got a lot better after that, but there were only about three weeks left to the summer by that point. Suffice it to say, I am THRILLED to be back at work this fall! I'm sure many other parents have dealt with sibling rivalry in your house, and would love to hear strategies that worked for you. Please feel free to either comment on this blog or email me at jillian.diesner@dc.gov
-Jillian
-Jillian
Friday, June 14, 2013
Summer Happiness
Well, the year is almost over and summer is upon us! For most kids (and teachers), this is a time of extreme happiness and excitement. We get to spend lots of time doing all those things we daydreamed about during the long, sometimes dreary, days of school. Swimming at the community pool, visiting grandparents, beach vacations, lazy days reading books, sports and fun summer camps. For some, though, the change in routine can cause extra stress and uncertainty. For parents who still have to work this can certainly feel stressful, and for kids who feel best with lots of routine and structure in place it can also cause stress.
For our family, I make out a "daily summer schedule" that we try to follow each weekday. It includes an outside activity (chosen from a list we've already agreed upon: museums, libraries, pool, etc.), an academic activity (writing or math because that's what my son needs to work on), some quiet time in the afternoon (no screens allowed!) and ends with work on our "special project." Last year the special project was putting a vegetable garden in our backyard, something the whole family agreed we wanted to have and we were all willing to work on bit by bit. Since we spent most of the summer cleaning out an area of the yard and building a frame for it, by the time the plants went in it was already late in the summer and the garden didn't yield much. But this year our hard work will pay off and our nice garden area is already starting to bloom with pumpkin vines and little yellow flowers that will become cherry tomatoes (the kids chose these seeds, not me.) I've got lots of ideas for our "special project" for this summer, including writing and illustrating an adventure book, but will let the kids choose something that feels meaningful to them. I'm hoping this teaches the value of hard work and putting effort into something that may not necessarily give immediate gratification. Having this routine in place helped keep us all a little more sane and happy, and days when we couldn't follow the schedule due to doctor's appointments or other events we were all a little "off." I'm hoping to implement the same type of routine this summer, but know it will change a bit because the boys are each a year older and will have different interests.
I plan to update this blog from time to time over the summer, not because anyone reads it, but just to help keep myself in some sort of routine and connected to work. I'll also be reading all the great curriculum materials I bought for the fall and trying to map out how I will teach peace, kindness, and mindfulness to 4 year olds :-) Here's a link to one blog I also follow, Raising Happiness, that is full of great ideas, articles, and resources for creating and sustaining child and family happiness. However you spend the summer with your families, I wish you a wonderful time filled with lots of joy and happiness!
Jillian
For our family, I make out a "daily summer schedule" that we try to follow each weekday. It includes an outside activity (chosen from a list we've already agreed upon: museums, libraries, pool, etc.), an academic activity (writing or math because that's what my son needs to work on), some quiet time in the afternoon (no screens allowed!) and ends with work on our "special project." Last year the special project was putting a vegetable garden in our backyard, something the whole family agreed we wanted to have and we were all willing to work on bit by bit. Since we spent most of the summer cleaning out an area of the yard and building a frame for it, by the time the plants went in it was already late in the summer and the garden didn't yield much. But this year our hard work will pay off and our nice garden area is already starting to bloom with pumpkin vines and little yellow flowers that will become cherry tomatoes (the kids chose these seeds, not me.) I've got lots of ideas for our "special project" for this summer, including writing and illustrating an adventure book, but will let the kids choose something that feels meaningful to them. I'm hoping this teaches the value of hard work and putting effort into something that may not necessarily give immediate gratification. Having this routine in place helped keep us all a little more sane and happy, and days when we couldn't follow the schedule due to doctor's appointments or other events we were all a little "off." I'm hoping to implement the same type of routine this summer, but know it will change a bit because the boys are each a year older and will have different interests.
I plan to update this blog from time to time over the summer, not because anyone reads it, but just to help keep myself in some sort of routine and connected to work. I'll also be reading all the great curriculum materials I bought for the fall and trying to map out how I will teach peace, kindness, and mindfulness to 4 year olds :-) Here's a link to one blog I also follow, Raising Happiness, that is full of great ideas, articles, and resources for creating and sustaining child and family happiness. However you spend the summer with your families, I wish you a wonderful time filled with lots of joy and happiness!
Jillian
Monday, May 13, 2013
Teaching Peace Program Overview
To view a great presentation of Linda's program and get a good idea of what happens during Peace Classes here at Lafayette each day, click on this link (Prezi format).
Friday, May 10, 2013
2013 Pennies for Patients Exciting News!
We just found out some very exciting news: Lafayette Elementary School was the TOP fundraising school this year in all of D.C. Public Schools! Our final total was over $7,000, which was more than double our original goal. We will get a special plaque recognizing our status, and Nurse Cockrell and I were also chosen as the "2013 Distinguished Coordinators for DC" based on our rookie status (neither of us have ever done this fundraiser before) and the amount raised. One classroom was chosen by LLS to attend a Nationals Baseball game on June 22, and that class is Mrs. Harn's 2nd grade students (also our 3rd place winners overall for the school). All of our students and parents can also attend this game at a reduced price by using this link.
We want to give a big thanks to YOU parents for supporting this fundraiser and helping us achieve these goals. We couldn't have done it without your support (and of course, your pennies!)
Social Thinking--What is it?
Thanks to the generosity of our HSA's professional development fund for teachers, I just got back from attending a great two-day conference in Baltimore. The topic was on Social Thinking, which is a phrase coined by author, activist, and SLP Michelle Garcia Winner. Social thinking is about much more than basic social skills, which are mostly language based, as in: "I say hi, you say hi back" and getting students to have a conversation of at least three exchanges. Social thinking includes teaching kids how our brains work, what thoughts are, and how our thoughts and the thoughts of others are influenced by our behaviors. It's a much more in-depth and holistic way of approaching social learning, and one I've been dabbling in for the past two years with students here at Lafayette. At this conference given by Michelle, I learned about a new social thinking curriculum for younger kids ages 4-7 called "The Incredible Flexible You." This is a basic way of teaching ALL kids about social skills such as identifying thoughts and feelings, figuring out what to do in a group, using your eyes to make smart guesses about others, keeping your body and brain in the group (what we would call "self-control") and using your whole body to listen. While I've incorporated parts of these concepts into character ed classes this year and last, I am really excited to be able to teach them in a more formal way in the upcoming school year. Other plans for next year include the "Teaching Peace" curriculum that Linda Ryden is currently using with 2-5th grades, and which I'll write more about later. Please feel free to contact me for more information about Social Thinking, plans for next year, or anything else you have on your mind! Happy Friday; it's nice to be back in the building.
Wednesday, April 24, 2013
DC CAS Testing
Hello Parents! This week is DC CAS Testing for grades 2-5 at Lafayette. The week started with a testing assembly on Monday, followed by the first day of testing on Tuesday, April 23rd. Testing will continue throughout the next few days, ending this week for 2nd and 3rd graders and next week for 4th and 5th graders. During the opening assembly, students were reminded to not stress about the tests and simply do their best! Each child was given a card with the following tips:
1. Do your best, but DON'T STRESS
2. Relax your body: Take 3 belly breaths, close your eyes and focus on breaths
3. Positive self-talk: “I can do this!” or “It’s ok if I don’t know every answer”
4. Imagination: Imagine that the test is over and you are in a relaxed, calm place
If your child is experiencing test anxiety, please reference our previous Parent Pick-Up Group topic Test Anxiety and School Worries about helping your child deal with these issues.
Have any thoughts, ideas, or questions about how to reduce stress and anxiety and help your child succeed with testing? Please feel free to share them in our comments section!
1. Do your best, but DON'T STRESS
2. Relax your body: Take 3 belly breaths, close your eyes and focus on breaths
3. Positive self-talk: “I can do this!” or “It’s ok if I don’t know every answer”
4. Imagination: Imagine that the test is over and you are in a relaxed, calm place
If your child is experiencing test anxiety, please reference our previous Parent Pick-Up Group topic Test Anxiety and School Worries about helping your child deal with these issues.
Have any thoughts, ideas, or questions about how to reduce stress and anxiety and help your child succeed with testing? Please feel free to share them in our comments section!
Thursday, April 18, 2013
Organization Strategies for Your Child
Parent Pick-Up Group Topic: 4/18/13
The topic for this group was organization strategies for your child, including strategies for children with ADHD. We included information from a presentation given by the Special Education department entitled "Taking the 'Dis' Out of Disorganized." Below you will find an outline of the information including a variety of organizational strategies that you could implement with your child:
Learning Styles:
An organized student needs: STRUCTURE, ROUTINE, PREDICTABILITY
The topic for this group was organization strategies for your child, including strategies for children with ADHD. We included information from a presentation given by the Special Education department entitled "Taking the 'Dis' Out of Disorganized." Below you will find an outline of the information including a variety of organizational strategies that you could implement with your child:
Learning Styles:
- Information enters the brain through sight, hearing, and touch.
- Your learning style is the one you rely on most. Ex. Visual learners learn by sight, auditory learners learn by hearing, and tactile or kinesthetic learners learn by touch
- Visual Learners:
- Prefer to see information such as pictures, cartoons, demonstrations
- Picture words and concepts they hear as images
- Can be easily distracted in class without visual aids
- Overwhelmed by intense visuals
- Benefit from charts, maps, notes, and flash cards
- Auditory Learners:
- Prefer to hear information spoken
- Can absorb a lecture with little effort
- May not need careful notes to learn
- May avoid eye contact in order to concentrate
- May read aloud to themselves
- Like background music when they study
- Kinesthetic Learners:
- Benefit from direct experiences
- Prefer to participate in activities and performing skills such as writing
- Prefer touch for taking in information
- Can write out important facts to remember them
- Create study sheets connected to vivid examples
- Role playing can also be an effective strategy
Executive Functioning:
- "Conductor" of cognitive processes involved in learning
- Set of processes having to do with managing one's self in order to achieve a goal
- Neurologically based skills involving mental control and self-regulation
- Executive Skills:
- Sustained Attention- ability to maintain attention despite boredom, distractability, or fatigue
- Task Initiation- ability to begin projects without procrastination
- Planning/Prioritization- ability to create a road map to reach a goal or complete a task, making decisions about what is important to focus on
- Organization- ability to create and maintain systems to keep track of information and materials
- Time Management- capacity to determine how much time one has, allocate it, and stay within time limits
- Flexibility- ability to revise plans in the face of obstacles, setbacks, new information, or mistakes
- Goal-directed Persistence- capacity to have a goal, follow through, and not be distracted
- Metacognition- ability to stand back and take a birds's eye view of oneself in a situation, observe how you perform, and self monitor and evaluate
- Executive tasks at the elementary level:
- Completing chores including daily responsibilities and tasks (ex. brushing teeth, making bed, feeding pets)
- Using a system to organize school work (ex. planner, notebook)
- Following complex school schedule
- Planning time (ex. school activities, homework, family responsibilities)
- Inhibiting rule breaking in absence of visible authority
- To teach executive skills:
- Directly address skills
- Consider child's level of development
- Make changes in environment, task, or interaction with your child
- Modify tasks to match your child's capacity
- Use incentives to support instruction
- Praise, rewards
- Provide just enough support for the child to be successful
- Keep support and supervision until child has mastered the task
- Fade support, supervision, and incentives gradually
An organized student needs: STRUCTURE, ROUTINE, PREDICTABILITY
- Planner
- Check nightly if needed
- Color code for homework and tests/quizzes
- Include a list of materials needed each night
- Record phone numbers of two classmates
- Monthly Calendars
- Use for long term projects, essays, research papers, speeches
- Separate task into parts
- Complete process 2-3 days before due date
- Check with teacher as each section is completed
- Homework Priority List
- List all homework as follows:
- #1- Longest, most difficult assignment due tomorrow
- #2- List in decreasing order according to difficulty, length, aversion
- End of list- work on long term assignments per schedule
- Help your child learn to estimate time needed for a given assignment
- Discuss and decide on amount of time for each assignment
- Set timer as student begins
- Upon completion, note actual time needed
- No racing allowed
- Important to keep record of study times for tests and corresponding grades
- Homework Schedule
- Post near working space or on refrigerator
- Consider attention span
- Build in breaks (10 minutes or less)
- Extraneous technology OUT
- Plan ahead for days with extracurricular activities, etc.
- Consider time of desired activity after homework is completed (reward, motivator)
- More efficient use of school time = less homework!
- Always prepare backpack, lunchbox, clothing, etc. at night
- Binders
- Depending on the class-
- pencil case
- one large or two smaller 3 ring
- double sided pocket divider for each subject
- regular dividers per class need
- ex. English- notes, grammar, lit, writing, vocabulary, homework, tests
- During school day, put homework and papers in front pocket of each subject
- Every night before homework, empty pocket and organize each section
- Place completed homework into appropriate pocket
- Use back pocket for ongoing work, study materials, etc.
- Studying: Reading a Textbook Chapter
- BEFORE reading the chapter-
- Read the introduction
- Read the chapter summary at the end
- Highlight all titles, subtitles, and headings
- BEFORE reading each section-
- Write each vocab word on an index card
- Prepare all section questions by turning each into a statement, leave room for answer
- As you read each section-
- Define each vocab word in your own words
- Complete all section questions by filling in answers
- Highlight vocabulary and definitions and other important information
- After finishing-
- Test yourself with review questions at the end of the chapter
- Use the cards, review questions, and highlighted information to study for the test as well as class notes, review materials, etc.
- Short, frequent study sessions over several days are more effective than one long session the night before the test!
- After the test-
- Make corrections
- Analyze mistakes (ex. kind of questions missed, information missed)
- Check if there was enough study time beforehand
- Make study guides out of tests with highlighter
Additional Advice:
- In addition to homework priority list, keep another post-it next to work space:
- List any extraneous thoughts that interrupt focus (ex. need to wash gym clothes, need to bring $5 for the party, etc.) and keep working
- Allow student to "empty his or her mind" of random thoughts that interrupt work flow
- Review that day's notes nightly
- Highlight after, not while reading
- Cramming intensifies test anxiety!
Final Thoughts:
- Talk about learning styles with your child
- Engage in discussion about executive skills and strengths and weaknesses
- Work on strategies as early as possible
- Use small steps. reinforce efforts, gradually fade coaching
- Point them toward resources
- When challenges occur, offer understanding and help them get back on track
- Encourage effort, praise success, and let them know you love them
- Talk to school personnel if:
- You think your child needs additional support at school
- You think there might be learning or attention problems requiring more specific intervention
Presentation adapted from: Julie Landis, Ph.D. and Karen Buchine, M.A., Teaching and Learning Center of Texas
Thanks for reading! If you have any reactions, thoughts, or suggestions, please feel free to voice them in our comments section.
Character Word for April: Courage
Facing
your fears, and
having the strength to do what is right
COURAGE is our character word for the month of April! Several students have already been caught in the Character Spotlight for acting courageous. One student showed tremendous courage by stopping bullying behavior!
In the Character Education lessons this month, Ms. Diesner and intern Ms. Moore have been talking to Pre-K through 1st grade classes about showing courage. We read the book, "There's a Big, Beautiful World Out There" by Nancy Carlson which talks about common fears that many kids have and emphasizes facing fears and discovering all of the wonderful things in the world. During our discussions, students have shared some of their fears, and talked about times that they acted courageously and overcame them. Our younger students were asked to draw a picture of a time that they showed courage and create a courage badge and had the opportunity to share these pictures with their classmates.
Encourage your child to continue to face his or her fears and show courage both in and out of school. He or she could be caught in the Character Spotlight!
Wednesday, March 27, 2013
Teaching Peace: Conflict Resolution
Are you going up the Conflict Escalator?
It's
Conflict Resolution time in Peace Class! In 2nd - 5th grade we are
spending time in Peace Class learning how to work out our conflicts
peacefully. If you have the kind of child who tells you all about what
happens at school (I have one who does and one who doesn't!) then you have
probably heard about the Conflict Escalator. The Conflict Escalator is a
way to help us think about how conflicts can start out as nothing but small
problems but because of the things people say and do and the way that people
react they can sometimes escalate into something much worse. Ask your
child what is at the top of the Conflict Escalator. The answer: Nothing
but Trouble! In second grade Peace Class we have been reading stories
about conflicts and we are beginning to think about what sends a conflict up
the escalator. In third grade Peace Class we are learning about the
Conflict Resolution Toolbox. This toolbox is filled with solutions such
as sharing, taking turns, and compromising. We are role-playing how to use
these tools in different conflict scenarios. In fourth and fifth grade Peace
Class we are learning more advanced conflict resolution methods and practicing
them through role-playing. When all of the kids are speaking the same
"language" about conflict it is much easier to keep things peaceful
here at Lafayette!Linda Ryden
Teaching Peace
Please share your thoughts about the conflict escalator and how it might help your child or any other comments about the Teaching Peace curriculum in the comments section!
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